This is how we work – Brent sees Pallea pan on Amazon. We both realize we have a deep need to make Pallea. A week later, I make the purchase. Brent grabs the delivered pan & tries to remove stickers from pan (why awful stickers on a good pan?) Time passes and we know we gotta figure it out. I sift through many recipes and begin to build one based on 1) our preferences, 2) the conventions and traditions of Pallea and 3) what’s in our pantry/fridge. I send recipe ideas and shopping list to Brent (he volunteered to shop!). “Let’s not get too crazy” I say…”we’ll do octopus another time!” – lol. Brent returns with groceries (including ingredient for a new harvesty-grape-y drink he wants to try… “Indian Summer” because 1) we’re longing for Indian summer and 2) I have a grip load of Concord grapes from the farm!) I grab groceries, clean the kitchen, and knock out the marinade, prep the proteins, the saffron broth, chop the veg, basically set it all up… Brent and I then dialogue on the process and pacing of the Pallea process. He fires up the grill and begins cooking, while giving me tastes here and there for seasoning and texture feedback (while our daughter also needs me for many things do my attention is a little divided…!!)…. Dinners just about done. We’re tired. But sooooo excited to eat! We finally dine, all of us, on the yummy pallea. Brent and cadence snuggle. I attack the clean up. And while I’m at it, get some mineral oil on the chopping block and oil on the new Pallea pan (it’s required in the directions of the pan!!! Lol). leftovers for days… Perfection a. It’s not 50-50. It’s 100-100. We both give 100% to each other and our family.